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Matt Baxter's avatar

I don’t have any advice to add, only that I have a hard time saying no also. It’s hard to ignore that nagging FOMO!

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Rachel Michelle Wilson's avatar

Matt, thank you for adding the FOMO aspect of it. It's totally that for me. And also fear of hurting people's feelings. Knowing I'm not alone helps just as much as advice, so thanks for sharing!

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Kathleen Sykes's avatar

Oof! I have a hard time saying no too. I’m a huge people pleaser, and I love going the extra mile, but it often ends up with me feeling burnt out and resentful.

Last week, when I was talking with my therapist, he gave me the suggestion to analyze what my values are and then make my decisions based on whether or not something fits in my top 3-5 values. I’ve been trying that and it has been eye opening.

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Rachel Michelle Wilson's avatar

Kathleen, I totally relate to the people pleasing, extra mile burnout thing. I LOVE this evaluating by your values idea and I'm totally going to steal it (he he). Thank you so much for sharing.

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Kathleen Sykes's avatar

Lol! No problem! I’ll bill my therapist accordingly. 😅

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Rachel Michelle Wilson's avatar

Ahahaha

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Kathleen Sykes's avatar

Hopefully that helps!

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